|Pastoral Resource Ministries, Inc.
|An Outreach Ministry for the Millennium
|Our goals are to eliminate domestic violence, empower victims, educate the public, and promote partnerships.
|Created To Be Whole - Stop Domestic Violence Against Women
|If you are in immediate danger
call your local police 911
National Domestic Violence
Anonymous & Confidential Help
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“Created to Be Whole” Domestic
Violence Program (CTBWDVP) for
women is to make a difference in the
lives of women. Every donation to
this program helps support victim s of
violence and to ensure someone is
available for them in a time of need.
The information below is a way of looking at the behaviors abusers use to get and keep control in their
relationships. Battering is a choice. It is used to gain power and control over another person. Physical
abuse is only one part of a system of abusive behaviors.
Abuse is never a one time event.
The Domestic Violence Cycle show the relationship of physical abuse to other forms of abuse. Each
section shows a way to control or gain power.
Making her afraid by using looks, actions, gestures, smashing things, destroying her property, abusing
pets, displaying weapons.
Using Emotional Abuse
Putting her down, making her feel about herself, calling her names, making her think she's crazy, playing
mind games, humiliating her, making her feel guilty.
Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, where she goes, monitoring her
outside involvement, using jealousy to justify actions.
Minimizing, Denying and Blaming
Making light of the abuse and not having her concerns about it seriously, saying the abuse didn't happen,
shifting responsibility for abuse behavior, saying she caused it.
Making her feel guilty about the children, using the children to relay messages, using visitation to harass
her, threatening to take the children away.
Using Male Privilege
Treating her like a servant, making all the big decision, acting like the master of the castle, being the one to
define men's and women's roles.
Using Economic Abuse
Preventing her from getting or keeping a job, making her ask for money, giving us an allowance, taking her
money, not letting her know about or have access to family income.
Using Coercion and Threats
Making and/or carrying cut threats to do something to hurt her, threatening to leave her, to commit suicide, to
report her to welfare, making her drop charges, making her do illegal things.
Domestic Violence Should Not Happen To Anyone - YOU ARE NOT ALONE! IT IS NOT YOUR
Cycle provided by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project - 202 East Superior Street, Duluth, Minnesota
218-722-2781 - For more information on Domestic Violence visit - http://www.duluth-model.org
|"God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalms 46:1
"Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers." 3 John 2
Putting the broken pieces
back together again.